Forming a Bond with your Step Son

As they are growing up, boys benefit greatly from having a positive male role model, so step-dads who bond well with their stepsons can provide them with a relationship that both generations will cherish all throughout their lives. Being a dad is far more than simply fathering a child; dads are the ones who are there, day after day and year after year, providing love and guidance to the children in their families.

The Importance of a Strong Male Role Model

Many children today are raised in single parent households, most often with their mothers. Too often, boys grow up without a strong and consistent male role model, leaving them with no sound example of what it means to be a kind and caring man. Step dads often fill this void, and when they choose to look at their spouse’s son as their own, the relationship that develops can help the boy to understand the potential role of a man, both as a father and as a human being.

Finding Common Ground with Step-Sons

Fathers and sons often have periods when their relationship runs smoothly and others when they have a hard time finding anything to talk about. During the tough stretches, dads often find that they are able to stay connected to their sons by sharing activities, hobbies, or even household chores – anything that puts them in the same place at the same time without any pressure to have uncomfortable conversations. Fortunately, every parent learns quickly that kids, even those who may be hesitant to open up, may have an easy time sharing information about their lives when they are in the midst of an activity, so scheduling shared activities may be the best way for a dad to stay involved in the life of his son, even when the boy is going through an awkward stage.

Encouraging Meaningful Dialogue with Step-Sons

Much to the disdain of girls and women, men and boys don’t typically find conversation to be a pastime all on its own. Instead, the male of the species often have some of their most meaningful conversations scattered between talk of sports, music, cars, television, or current events. When women aren’t around and the guys have some time to themselves, stepfathers can encourage their sons to be communicative by beginning conversations about things that their stepsons enjoy and then leading the talk toward more serious subjects in bits and pieces. By approaching their sons in this manner, the boys aren’t likely to feel put on the spot, so they may be inclined to open up more than they would if their dads were to go to them and say, “Son, we need to talk.”

Encouraging Step-Sons’ Achievement

Everyone likes to feel that they have people in their lives who are always rooting for them and one of the best parts about being a parent is the role of encouraging fan. Most sons seek the approval of their fathers, whether or not they admit it – which they are unlikely to do when they are growing up – so stepfathers who look for the best in their sons and then provide support and encouragement, give the boys a true boost. While they may be a bit embarrassed on the surface, it is the rare son who wouldn’t be thrilled to get a big hug and a few words of approval from their dad. Stepfathers play an important role in the lives of their children, simply by offering their love and providing their stepsons with a role model worthy of emulating.